We all have our whiny, "moan and groan" moments, simply because the nature of humanity is to never be completely satisfied, regardless of how much we have. As a species, we're always on the lookout for something more. How often does anyone actually take a moment and feel gratitude for all that they have in their life? Hint, it's usually not as often as they complain about what they do not have.
Happiness is not really about money and material possessions – it's about the little, everyday things that we generally take for granted. What we all need to do is to feel grateful for what we do have, rather than whining about what we do not.
If you think you do not have anything to be grateful for, you're wrong – everyone has something. Maybe your blessing is the sound of your young child's laughter, and the way that they want to be around you all the time. It could be spending time with someone you care about – family, a good friend you have not seen in a long time, a lover who wants to come over and "catch up." You might be thankful for that person that let you into the traffic lane.
Try this little experiment. First think about what you do not have, what is wrong with your life or what you need to change. And notice how you feel. Are you feeling positive or negative, happy or sad. Then just let that thought go and move onto part two of this exercise.
Now, close your eyes, take a deep breath and take a moment to think about just one thing that is good in your life. How does that good thing make you feel? Go ahead, try it and notice how you feel after wards. If you're like most people you should notice a shift in your mood, sometimes a smile even creeps onto your face, and you somehow feel just a bit more positive than you did when you're thinking about what you do not have.
Would not you prefer to feel more positive, more often? By adding a dose of gratitude to every day, you can. Here's a daily exercise that will help you do just that. You can do this every evening or each morning or both. Whenever you choose to do it, make an effort to do it at the same time each day for a full thirty days.
Give yourself a couple of minutes to just go within and settle your mind. You might want to close your eyes and pay attention to your breath or imagine a cleansing white light going through your entire body. Whatever works for you is fine.
Now think about all the wonderful things that exist in your life. Allow yourself to be filled with the warmth of gratitude that you feel for having these things. Now take out a notebook or journal and list five of them down on paper. You may want to buy a new blank notebook and make this your "gratitude journal".
Do this everyday for a month and the impact on your emotional well being and attitude will be phenomenal.